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FLO BAND for Dance and Play


There is a book by James Carse called Finite and Infinite Games: A Vision of Life as Play and Possibility.

The band, like smash ball, dancing, relationship etc, can be an infinite game. Certainly the band is a circle, from some perspectives without a start or end.

The FLO BAND gives you a common boundary. The potential games and play are infinite.

Quotes from the book “Finite and Infinite Games”:

“Finite players play within boundaries; infinite players play with boundaries.”

“A finite game is played for the purpose of winning, an infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play

“Surprise causes finite play to end; it is the reason for infinite play to continue.”

“Strength is paradoxical. I am not strong because I can force others to do what I wish as a result of my play with them, but because I can allow them to do what they wish in the course of my play with them.”


Some games involve having the partner also take on the role of opponent. Remember the opponent is part of the team that creates the game. First there is the friend, the partner, the team- mate, and then there is the hat of opponent.

As in martial arts training, the most effective strategy may be to invest in loss. By this is meant that if you are initially too invested in having to win, you will use force and effort instead of skill and awareness…..you wont learn as much that way, and you will stay in the same habit patterns, use the same muscle groups and so on. However, if you relax, go with the flow, feel at a deeper level and have no attachment to winning or losing, then you will have many more opportunities for learning, growth, sharing and connection and everyone will be happier!

You can still go all out, just build up to it and work with your partner. If you and you and your partners are smiling, learning, laughing, you are on the right path. The FLO BAND is fun!

Here are a couple games we have enjoyed:

The feet cant move game. A variation of push hands from Tai Chi. Both partners get comfortable inside the band, leaning out slightly to support each other, adjusting the band so that it is in the most comfortable/interesting position. And when both people are ready the idea is to move everything except your feet. You can decide on the many possible variations – for example whether you will allow touching the floor, sitting down for an instant, touching each other, foot rotating a little, hands on band etc….

If you are allowed to touch the floor, and you fall forward or backward but don’t move your feet, then you don’t lose. If you pull your partner on top of you, be prepared to protect yourself as they fall.

You don’t have to keep this game as a competition, and after a while you can go into a freestyle where there is no winning or losing, and where you only move the feet minimally, and it becomes more of a dance or assisted stretching/asana game. You can also play with leaning out and pushing your partners hands.

Bumper cars:

Usually played with three people in one band, and best with a slightly longer and more elastic band ( available shortly as a FLO BAND™).

The idea here is to move into the spaces that you see and actually not bump anyone. Pay attention to your feet and to where your partners are placing their feet. Be willing and able to spin and bounce off the band and flo to where there is a space or will be a space in a moment. One person can just spin and the other two bounce, or it can be freeform or you can take turns playing different roles. If you do have impacts, pay attention to the quality of them, and make them as soft and responsive as possible, so injury doesn’t happen, and the bumps actually add to the movement and momentum.

Remember to focus on the spaces and not the bodies, as one tends to go toward the things one is focusing on…so be aware of the bodies and body parts through peripheral vision, sound and proprioception.

Three people can also play:

Two inside and one outside. The one outside occasionally stands still and doesn’t move their feet while the other two explore, and can make it more challenging. Can do similar with all three inside. Take turns standing still, then also manipulating the elastic with the hands.


We noticed kids playing in this way with the band and decided to copy them. One runs and the other follows, practice stopping and guiding the other, use hand on band as necessary.


This is the basic game. Relationship training…co-operation, co-here-nce co-hesion, co-motion,
co-mmitment , co-nnection.

Dance your own dance while allowing and supporting the dance of the partner or partners.

You are playing with the faculty of listening, of intuition, of following the flow. Surrender first and then lead afterwards. Leading follows the following.

Include and transcend.


Try facing each other and facing away from each other. Lean back slowly, feeling each others weight. Experiment with moving the band to different places on the body. As you lean back, allow a slow give and take and keep going further until you are both suspended on each other.

Flying as in windsurfing or kiteboarding, use the other as your wing/sail/support. If its hurting you, then you are using too much force or resistance, or the band needs to be moved or you need to adjust the mechanics of your posture. Make sure the band is flat against the body and has not become scrunched, as then that can cut into you.

It’s a simultaneous give and take. You end up flying, suspended on the weight of the other.

Riding the edge, the shared boundary. Going with the flo.

This arrangement of bodies evokes the concept of tensegrity.

Tensegrity The term tensegrity was coined by Buckminster Fuller as a contraction of tensional integrity

Biotensegrity, a term coined by Dr. Stephen Levin, is the application of tensegrity principles to biologic structures.[7] Biological structures such as muscles, bones, fascia, ligaments and tendons, or rigid and elastic cell membranes, are made strong by the unison of tensioned and compressed parts. The muscular-skeletal system is a synergy of muscle and bone. The muscles and connective tissues provide continuous pull[8] and the bones discontinuous push.

Unlike the nervous system which conducts impulses linearly, the connective tissue allows instant communication throughout the structure. It is through this mechanism that we can react faster than the nervous system allows.


No touching but dialog with momentum and movements. Obviously you have to have a safe place to do this and you have to work with awareness and response-ability. Probably best for slower and more subtle explorations.

No agenda

Let the game appear as it will. Just be present and responsive to your partner and soon you will be playing a game…

Come-in lines:

Bands are a good warm up for dance and play; see if you can encourage others to join your band practice, perhaps with a corny line or gesture like “would you like to join my band” “lets engage in some banned activities” “lets band together” “I am an elastician clinician, would you like to join me” “There is no end to the possibilities of this band” “ let me get you in the loop here” “would it be a stretch for you to hold the end of this band” ad nauseam…